If there is a single sentence in the Torah that resonates with me, it’s one said by a most deceitful character who also happened to be the uncle and father-in-law of our patriarch Jacob.
After working in his father-in-law’s shepherding business for 20 years, Jacob decided to leave Charan (Iraq) and bring his large family to join his parents in the Holy Land. He consulted with his wives and made plans to leave clandestinely to avoid familial drama and financial wrangling.
Just before leaving, Jacob’s beloved wife Rachel, who desperately wanted her pagan dad to move closer to the monotheistic beliefs that she and her family had come to cherish, decided to do some forceful outreach: She stole his idols with plans to dispose of them later on.
Through his network of confederates, Laban found out about their departure and quickly caught up to the slow-traveling caravan. The following morning (after a dream where G‑d warned him not to mistreat his son-in-law) Laban confronted Jacob face to face. Laban presented his grievance, and Jacob had the opportunity to present his case.
While presenting his side of the story, Laban accuses Jacob, “And now that you’ve chosen to leave because you miss you father’s home, why did you steal my gods?”
Unaware of Rachel’s act, Jacob denies it forcefully.
Can you steal a god? What a strange concept.
The very fact that one can steal an idol shows the pettiness of ascribing supernatural powers to figures of stone and metal. How can a deity fit into a box?
Indeed, the Midrash tells us that when Jacob’s children heard their grandfather’s accusation, they were pained and said, “We are embarrassed and ashamed by this grandfather who claims that his gods were stolen."
Let's take this story and make it personal: Have we deified things which can fit on a camel or be stolen from us? Money, fame, power, pleasure, superficial aspirations?
We all worship something. The question is whether the object of our adulation is Jacob's version of G‑d or Laban's.
Can the principles we hold dear be stolen? Can true morality be snatched from a person?
Historically, one of the greatest prides of the Jewish people has been that no matter what our haters did to us, no matter how many of our possessions were stolen, no matter how much blood was spilled, they could never take away our G‑d. No Nazi or crusader could confiscate or kill Him. That is the miracle of Jewish history. Our Jewishness is unstealable.
Laban telling Jacob about his stolen god is a moment of true historical irony. There was Jacob, traveling with his Jewish family to the Holy Land to build a nation of monotheists who would go through three millennia of expulsions and thefts and still have their G‑d in their hearts. And there was Laban, who was worried about the god in his pocket.
But, in a sense, the infinite Creator can be stolen.
We all know people who have lost their interest in G‑d and Judaism. Someone (or something) is stealing their (connection to) G‑d.
That is unnatural. We are “believers children of believers.” Faith is in our DNA. And yet, in so many of our brothers and sisters, that faith isn't surfacing. And the question we must ask ourselves is, why? Why is G‑d being stolen? What well-intentioned mistakes are we making that are pushing our siblings away?
The good news is that G‑d can never truly be stolen, and Judaism will never disappear. It can only go into hiding. We can help it come back into the light.
Every child, teen, or adult whose Judaism shines brightly is a win that deserves celebration. And every child, teen, or adult whose connection is waiting to be ignited is a call for the rest of us to do what we can to reveal the light within.
This is the pivotal challenge of our time: To reveal the beautiful connection between Jacob's G‑d and Jacob's children.

Can God Be Stolen? Is it really so hard to understand why a Jew’s DNA wouldn’t prevent losing one’s connection to an omnipotent loving Deity ( thus characterized in Jewish prayer) who stayed silent, as if paralyzed, while Jewish babies were ripped from their mother’s wombs during the Shoah, or 11 Jews were nurdered praying on Shabbat in Pttsburgh, or while millions and millions of atrocities have been committed against His People over the centuries? What loving connection can a Jew have to such an Abba? He stole His connection from us. And please don’t tell me the answer will be found in the next world. We live and are slaughtered in this one.
Dear Mark. Your anger and pain are totally heard by me in your message. There is no justification, no explanation even though we might, as logical human intellect demands, look for reasons why.
We are always left with one thing though : our choice. No one but you or I can take our choice away.
To believe in the mystery of the Divine.
Or not.
We can still be angry. We can still do human actions to bring perpetrators to earthly justice. And we must.
Hashem offers us a relationship. A two-way partnership in bringing the divine light into our everyday world. Sometimes though, I know for myself, I’ve hung up the phone on that conversation because I thought He wasn’t listening.
Now I think maybe I was just spiritually deaf and He was actually persisting on the line to pick up the conversation.
When we do even one positive mitzvah here and now we are clearing up the static on the phone line and cleaning out our own earwax.
Mark - do a mitzvah for the Pittsburgh souls. Anything.
Can God be stolen You have a good heart and neshama, Rachel, and I appreciate your thoughtful effort to defend our absent Father. Let me respond with this. I did mitzvot for the Pittsburgh souls. Answer from above? Over 400 rockets reigned down on Israel from Gaza terrorizing innocent Israeli civilians, with kids and Shoah survivors fleeing to bomb shelters day and night, a civilian bus exploding - killing a passenger ; one IDF soldier dead others wounded - sirens blasting warnings 24/7. And we all know the clock is only ticking until the barrage begins again or a terrorist kills another Israeli. Meanwhile, recently published statistics show that anti-Semitic crimes in the USA are at an all-time high and rising, while a Jew hater (Jeremy Corbyn) now leads ( by popular vote!) one of the UK’s two major parties. So, if I try to believe there’s a two-way conversation in progress, then the other party is asleep, indifferent or simply not there.My Mitzvot go up in vapors like the smoke from the ovens.
Seeing a baby pass or seeing it grow a become a monster? Which is love? Shabbat shalom
Mark, thank you for your kind words. I can also hear your anger again and that's ok too. Your last line particularly impacted on me and made me wonder if there's some deeper stuff, much more personal, going on here for you as well. In my limited experience, religion touches the personal much more often than we might like to say.
For myself, I am still learning about mitzvot and trying to do what I can. It's my way of spitting in the eye of the haters, with the added bonus that the moisture cleans off some of the dust on my own neshama. I do it without expectation of reward but because as a Jew, Hashem asks me to meet Him in these ways. I don't know why we are asked to do some of these observances but I think of it as a metaphysical language where the answer will become clear with the perspective of time ( and not necessarily human time) but something transcendent.
Mark, I wish you a Shavua Tov and I wish you may discover your personal peace soon.
I lost my home. It's was an ugly motorhome and tiny, but I had paid for it myself and had plans to upgrade it. I fell in love with it. Yahweh wanted me to stop falling in love with the things Yahweh gave me to use. So Yahweh took them away. There is good in every event. It is our job as humans to find that love in those moments that are against our will. The twin towers, the bombings, war, holocaust, shootings, loss of life, limb, property, and disasters are all against human will, but they have a place in Yahweh's plans. I know that is hard to swallow. It took me many years to figure out what love can be in me losing my home. It made me cry for years. It broke me. Being homeless was something I learned to live with since I was a teen, but this pain was from how hard I had worked to get that home. Now I know better. I hope I helped. I know if a certain man had passed away as a child, a Jew, the holocaust and many other atrocities would have been avoided. Shabbat shalom
Can God be stolen Dear Rachel, I appreciate your beautiful thoughts. Ultimately, you’re right, Judaism expects us to do mitzvot for the sake of the mitzvot, expecting no reward from above- deriving any pleasure, from the doing. And it leaves the dilemma we’ve been discussing just that: a dilemma. If I had the power to respond to your goodness, you would be showered with blessings. I do pray that it be so.
Mark. You are a mensch already.
Now be the prince Hashem intended you to be.
Every bracha.
Rachel
Dear Twig,
I am so sorry you lost your dwelling. But I am very moved by how you have accepted the situation and even looked for the good in it.
May your emunah (faith) be rewarded soon.
Dear Twig,
I’m sorry but I don’t understand your meaning. If you can help me understand what you’re saying to me I would be happy to respond.
Shavua tov.